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As someone who has spent the last 30 years reading self help books with optimism of making meaningful changes that will transform me into the person I wish to be, this is a welcome change of pace.
The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking
The chapters in this book look at finding contentment from the perspective of Stoicism, Buddhism, setting goals or notmoving your focus outside of yourself, not seeking after security, recognizing your mistakes and weaknesses, looking bjrkeman in the face, and acknowledging that, contrariwise, sometimes being negative is the most positive outlook you antisote have.
The book is not academic, and i I had never read the author’s articles in the Guardian, but might start doing so after reading this book. Another interesting chapter was on stoicism, and on recognizing that things could always be worse. Planning is a different matter as generally planning looks at both positives and negatives and is more realistic.
This is a very good albeit not perfect book, illustrating several schools of thought that bear on the issue of happiness — or contentment, or acceptance; there are definite nuances.
The author, Oliver Burkeman, a Guardian journalist covering psychology, says that instead we need to Curmudgeonly Brit that I am, I enjoyed this book a lot.
But make them buy their own copy after, because They should probably lend it to their friends. And despite this huge goal, there are unnecessary and confusing detours, like a long discussion of Descartes’s “cogito ergo sum” that I think misses the point.
The Antidote by Oliver Burkeman – review | Books | The Guardian
Forcing yourself to “think positive” often antidotr failure that much more devastating; setting long-terms goals often means scuttling your well-being in the drive to achieve and doubling down at the very moment it might make sense to abandon a bad idea ; trying to feel motivated can create an extra thing to be frustrated and depressed about; there is comfort and relief to be found in contemplating worst-case-scenarios and even death itself rather than trying to emphasize the positive at all costs.
An added bonus is that when I ask myself what the what is the worst thing that will happen if I don’t do something like flossing my teeth, I find that while it isn’t the end of the world, I really prefer not to have them all rot and fall out, so I am, ironically, finding the motivation after all. I guess they really are going for that endlessly-reinventing self-help market. The next few chapters burkemaan in some specious over-intellectualizing along with some very good stuff.
From motivational seminars to monasteries, experimental psychologists to business consultants, he does the legwork few find the time or inclination to do, and brings to it a wonderfully complex combination of intelligence, wit and curiosity.
But it would have been nice to have had some sort of cautionary word, some small piece of been-there-done-that warrior’s wisdom; something graspable beyond the rather underwhelming bromide: Burkeman then writes about how we overvalue safety and undervalue failure then ends with a chapter on how we approach death, including an interesting visit to Mexico on the Day of the Dead. Still, there’s a lot of great ideas in this little book that can get you thinking – maybe get you to the library to check out a philosophy book.
There were a whole bay of various speakers, one of whom I think really gave voice to the classic approach when he said that the way to achieve success was to eliminate the word ‘impossible’ from your vocabulary.
The rest of us just show up and get to work. I think it’s got the wrong title, because this makes it sound like pop-psychology, and this is much more than that. Lulz at that blurb; “a radically new path to happiness. Accepting that bukreman are bad, doesn’t stop you from removing yourself from being under their influence.
The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking by Oliver Burkeman
Basically this books is giving legitimacy to something we all kind of hoped – it’s ok to not be perfect, it’s ok to not be happy, it’s ok to just plow through some things muttering to yourself about how this bleeding sucks and you just want it to be over so you just get.
Somehow the positive-thought advocates have created the sense that their approach is about embracing life when, in fact, the opposite is true: What a clever and amusing and interesting and thoughtful book! There are no discussion topics on this book yet.
My problems not that I have any, obviously do not stem from me not having any faith in my ability to get through things, so why do I need to wake up everyday a Full Disclosure I won this book as a Goodreads Firstreads.
My problems not that I have any, obviously do not stem from me not having any faith in my ability to get through things, so why do I need to wake up everyday and tell myself it will be a good day. Is the self your body?
‘Antidote’ Prescribes A ‘Negative Path To Happiness’
View all 6 comments. It’s the kind of book I see myself coming back to as the years go on.
And how looking death into the face several times a day can help us redefine what is important. Instead, Burkeman imagines an approach that draws on a blend of different techniques including those espoused by Stoics, Buddhists, and even the spiritualist Eckhart Tolle. Maybe it would be better to jettison the H word altogether. View all 57 comments.
His British mind is possessed of the same existential unease that afflicts a good portion of thinking people, and he’s willing to angidote our culture’s many remedies to locate his relief.
To strive is, obviously, not the same as to attain.